We all know that feeling good, feels…well, good. But did you know that positive emotions are actually good for you as well? As good for you as eating-raw-vegetables-in-a-yoga-pose-after-running-a-marathon, good?
Yes, you heard that right. Not only are positive emotions quite pleasant but they give you energy, improve cardiac rhythms, glucose levels, inflammation and your immune system (fellow science nerds check out below*).
So where are we supposed to find these elusive positive moments that make us feel good and improve our health? Great question - because this definitely sounds more enjoyable than running a marathon - for real!
Well the great news is, you don’t actually have to do anything, because it turns out they are already there. All the time. Everyday. Like oxygen.
Okay, I know it might not feel like that a lot of the time. Or perhaps even most of the time. But that’s just what you think. And what you think also happens to be the problem. Confused? I’m sounding kinda cagey here so I’ll get to the point.
If you can manage to turn the volume of your thoughts down for 5 mins you’ll notice that most moments in your day are actually positive - I'm not just making this up! There’s scientific data proving it! In fact, those helpful scientists even named it – it’s called the “Positivity Offset” (terrible name, but marketing isn’t their strong suit).
Me and you, we’re here today because humans have survived as a species due to pessimism and looking for the danger in any situation - AKA “Negativity Bias” (another poorly named, but useful fact thanks to our scientist buddies). What this means is that our brains are always looking for the negative, for what is - or more usually what might - go wrong. So this explains why your first thought might be to see the glass is half empty. Because if it is almost empty, you need to find some more milk quick smart or WE’LL ALL DIE!
You can’t blame your brain for this tendency. It's useful. It’s always looking to keep you safe and alive. If you're a glass half-empty kinda person it probably means you're a pro-survivor and in times of apocalypse will be one of the last left standing!
But the problem with negativity bias is that it tends to paint a less-than rosy picture and make life look one way (you know, stressful, dangerous, troublesome) – and that way is not usually accurate. Because our useful and friendly scientists have shown that on any one day, moment by moment more good stuff happens than bad. We just tend to notice and dwell on the bad.
Our life is made up of moments. Stacked on top of one another. If we were able to experience our day and instead of thinking, worrying, imagining and generally getting all wound up in our negativity bias – then our day would be a lot more pleasurable. AND we would be improving our health! That my friend is win-win.
Now, just to clarify, this isn't about denying the negative. Of course sh*t does happen. You're alive, ergo you’ll have some trouble to deal with. Plus, some days we just feel in a bad mood, and have negative thoughts and feelings. Also okay. It’s not pretending none of that is there – but it’s about spending a lot more time experiencing your day, instead of thinking about it (or last week, or 10 years ago, or 5 years in the future). Get out of your brain and into your skin! (See the Bad Day Box below for Bad Day Strategy!)
Let’s also clarify what a positive emotion is. It does not equal always “being happy” (in that always smiling, hugely annoying over the top way – argh I feel sick). Positive emotions include joy, gratitude, serenity, interest, hope, pride, amusement, inspiration, awe and love.
More good news! It’s the frequency of the positive emotions that counts, not the intensity. So you pat a cat, and notice it feels quite nice. Tick, positive moment (good for health). You have a friendly chat at the cash register in the supermarket, and you feel quite connected to another person. Tick, positive moment (good for health). You like the feeling of sun on your skin, you get through the lights before they change, you find $1 on the ground, your friend invites you for coffee, you have a cuddle, you smile at a thought-provoking yet humorous blog 😉, you listen to a good song on the radio, your washing doesn’t get wet, you see a beautiful picture, the kids have gone to bed and its quieeeeeettt…. all ticks! And your life is probably already filled with loads of them plus a lot more meant just for you.
You get the point? It’s in the ordinary transactions of every day life that positive emotions grow.
MORE great news, the more you notice the positive moments and emotions, the more there are! If you can just stop always thinking and be present with them.
So give it a try and see what you can notice.
Now if you want a bit of help with practicing being more aware or present in your day, then contact me for a complimentary chat. Mindfulness is close to my heart. I’ll be offering a few resources to my lovely newsletter subscribers soon that you may find useful (so if you aren’t one yet, sign up!).
Lastly, make sure you add some things to your to-to list that are just for the fun of it. Just purely because you enjoy doing them. It’s good for your health!
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