Do you ever get that 'fat' feeling? When none of your clothes seem to fit and it takes you 45mins to try and find something to wear (and then you wish you were just staying in after all). When you are convinced everyone notices that your stomach is gianormous and the thought of getting your legs out in the summer sun makes a tiny part of you wish it was still winter?
Yup? Well you aren't alone. In fact so many of us feel this way that a billion trillion quzillion dollar diet industry has grown to separate you from your money for just that reason. Endless magazines promise you they have discovered the latest quick-fix-guaranteed-weight-loss diet. You can find out what your favourite celebrity did to lose 10kgs, 'healthy' diet pills, meal replacements, calorie counting apps, juice detoxes, plus a hundred different zany diet books all promising they can make you lose weight and fast.
And actually perhaps some of them can, the problem isn't necessarily in losing the weight, but in keeping it off. And in case you hadn't heard - diets don't work! In fact studies show that not only do most dieters gain back 1/3 of the weight in the next year, most are back to their original weight after 3-5 years and many weigh even more! That doesn't sound like good maths!
So why don't diets work? Well the thing is, your mind may have made a logical decision to go on a diet, but how the heck does your body know that? When you go on a diet, all your body notices is the food is suddenly drying up. Food it relys on to get you from A to B, to function, to survive (often despite the quality of it!). Perhaps you are in a famine? Or one of those zombie apocalypses. Either way it is clinging to any morsel of food that happens to cross your lips like its the last meal it might ever get.
On top of that it starts sending you some fierce food cravings just to make sure you are still looking for food. Then it attempts to shut down any non-essential functions, like the energy to socialise, have fun and exercise - no way, conserve, conserve, conserve! It doesn't take long to descend into a battle of your self-will versus the desire of every cell in your body and its instinct to survive. Until you find yourself in a last bloody siege at the fridge door, starving, lacking energy and ending in an uncontrollable lust for food and a massive episode of binge eating! And just to make sure, your body is going to hold on to every calorie from your binge extra tight 'just in case'.
You never stood a chance! The diet battle is like your version of the Middle East conflict. It seems endless and ongoing, and we all know more guns aren't gonna solve it. So if any of this is ringing little bells of recognition in your head it's time to send the peacekeepers in! Don't be angry at your lovely gorgeous body, its not your enemy, it's just trying to keep you alive!
So if you don't diet what do you do? (I hear you ask, via one of those secret listening devices that are apparently everywhere on our computers!). What's required is a complete rethink and change in tactics, starting with throwing out those obsessive lists of food baddies and goodies. Along with those labels of I'm a paleo/raw foodist/macrobiotic/eat only on Tuesdays, or however you like to define the way you eat. Instead it's time to open the channels of communication and start listening to your body and finding common ground, to discover what makes you and your body feel good, provides boundless energy, and is nourishing and pleasurable (yes that is possible!). Believe it or not, you can agree!
(Besides you want to make sure its in peak condition in case of zombie apocalypse.)
So tell me, what is your favourite thing to eat because it tastes great, and you know instinctively that your body loves you to eat it?
NB: I am aware I have a certain conspiracy/apocalypse theme going on here, which I must apologise for and is definitely related to my current choice of tv series which no doubt will end soon.
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Health coach, Mindfulness teacher, Mother, Bee Pollen consumer. "You want health? Well, health costs, and right here is where you start paying in sweat" (tee hee - actually its really rather pleasurable and fun!)