Okay, so the truth is, this week I freaked out a little bit. Okay a lot. I got a little bit overwhelmed and then slightly panicked about my larger than expected newsletter subscribers (yes, that's you!)! After high-fiving myself and feeling pretty pleased, it didn't take long to get to..."Oh, but now I have to write something really amazing...but what if I pick the wrong topic?...what if people don't like what I write?...what if people think this...or that...or blah blah blah blah". You get the point. Suddenly something I was really excited about became something overwhelming and like the worst idea I ever had! Does this sound familiar to you?
If not, howabout.... 'why did I say that?....why did I /didn't I do that?...why can't I be more like (fill in the blank)?' Okay by now you are probably wondering if I have mistaken this blog for my diary. And if not, then what the bejeezus has any of this got to do with good health?
And I see your point, this might seem a slightly odd place to begin our health journey. You're probably expecting my favourite immune-building-earth-shattering-green-smoothie recipe and 50-fun-ways-to-cook kale (don't worry there are plenty of those on their way) - but I wanted to start at the very, very, very beginning. And for me, this is it. I turn 40 at the end of this year, and I feel pretty darn good. It's true a lot of that is because I do a lot of 'healthy stuff' in a cancer avoidance type way - but one of the biggest changes is in the way I think about myself....because I learnt to notice and be kind to myself.
So that's why I'm sharing. Sometimes its easy to look at others and think they have got it all sorted out and its just you, plugging away, going around in circles. But its not just you, its all of us! We all have our huge measuring sticks reserved only for ourselves. But if you are serious about good health and getting the most out of your life, its time to put that puppy down. Just asking the question 'am I being kind to myself here?' (or if thats a bit lame and hippy for you 'can I cut myself some slack here?' ) can make all the difference. The truth is, you aren't perfect and you most likely won't ever be, and to top it off you are going to make some monumental f**k ups in life, so you might as well accept that now! There, doesn't that feel better?
'Well, not really' you say? What I mean is, that in order to make good healthy choices you have to meet yourself where you are. Accept yourself where you are. And you'll find it much easier to take a step forward from there. You might wish you were thinner, healthier, less ill, better at writing blog posts, but you're not (at least not right now). You are, where you are. So notice it, accept it, be kind to yourself about it, treat yourself like you would your best friend....and then take a step forward from there. So what are you giving yourself a hard time about right now? And could you cut yourself some slack?
As always I would love to hear what you think, so please comment below with your best self kindness tips, self-acceptance speech, or any other strange voices in your head!
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Health coach, Mindfulness teacher, Mother, Bee Pollen consumer. "You want health? Well, health costs, and right here is where you start paying in sweat" (tee hee - actually its really rather pleasurable and fun!)